Sunday, May 25, 2014


Can you call yourself a Christian if you do not like to do Christian things? Can you say you love God but are not bothered to change your little bad habits? Does it matter if you use swear words? Does it matter if you wear clothes that show your figure? What about prayers? How often is a “good Christian” to pray? When you pray, do you ask for specific things, or that His will be done? On the other end of the spectrum, should you neglect your former friends? Or still hang out with them and try to change them? Does saying “no” to people’s requests mean that you’re selfish? Does it matter if you don't take "rubbish" from anyone, and always speak your mind? Where do we draw the line, between having a personality and being a “good Christian”?

I had a conversation with one of the elder ladies in my church about living the Christian way, and she said that as Christians we have to be dead to our feelings, "Dead to the flesh", that's how she explained it. She said that we have to be like Christ was, and have mastery, authority and spiritual dominion over our thoughts, feelings, words, and actions. We have to learn to NOT react to situations harshly and rashly, no matter how inconveniencing or just plain rude. She said that's what being a Christian entails; we must be meek, show love and forgive easily. She explained that meekness is not weakness but rather strength, and makes us receptive to our true nature as children of God. We have to have an attitude of mind in which we feel free from the fear of giving up our so-called human rights. As is said in Matthew 5:5, “Blessed are the meek….”

I’m a very opinionated person. I have very clear boundaries around myself, which I expect people around me to respect, as I respect theirs. I am quite “nice”, but I always speak my mind. I’m not one to let people use and abuse me. And if someone wrongs me, I let them know, because if I don’t, the feelings and words eat at me inside. As a Christian, am I to let them walk all over me?


It’s like the second you decide to become a Christian; the devil sends you all kinds of temptations in form of people, testing you to your limit. People expect you to go out of your way for them, while giving nothing in return. They take stuff without asking. They waste your time. They are rude, loud, petty and obnoxious. My list of personal grievances goes on.

I am learning to let go and let God. I am learning to not always have a reply for everyone. I am learning to calmly walk away. I am learning to accept apologies I never got, to forgive others for my own good, rather than theirs. I am learning to always stay positive, regardless of my immediate environment. And I’m finding that the more I do it, the less tough it seems. As a Christian in Progress, I’m finding that it’s an attitude worth imbibing, because when you let go of always wanting to be right, you let peace and serenity in. And as more time passes, and with more practise, you attain a much higher consciousness and spirituality, and your life is so much better for it.



  1. Very nice! In all, seek Wisdom, that will guide you in your Christian race

  2. Thanks Dami!, kisses Zee :* :*. Maureen, how have you been?!

  3. Inspirational... I am not surprised. �� For me, one of my guideline is to do what is difficult and doesn't come naturally to me and to restrain from what I would naturally want to do. Whether we accept it or not we are in a lascivious world, we live in a sinful body and sin in itself is attractive. By myself I know I can't be Christ like. philipians 2:13; For it is God which worketh in me both to will and to do of his good pleasure. I need the Holy Spirit to guide, direct my path and aid discerning what's morally upright and what isn't. I pray that as we all strive to be like Christ He changes our view of life by the transformation of our minds and conforms our will to His will. Thank you Kelly for providing this medium for us and for sharing your thoughts with us.

  4. No, thank YOU, sarah. Your guideline is definitely a unique perspective! I need to imbibe that. You've inspired me.

  5. Being real with Christianity is having to deal with all around you and still be with God. Its a balance we have to strike in life and completely stay true to it. Is it really easy to forgive? Is it really easy to let go and let God? There's always this inner human spirit that keeps saying don't forgive, keep holding on to nothing, Hmmm!! All we can do is try. With faith so strong, we can do all things and achieve many as well. Letting go can be easier and letting God can be our ultimate decision.

    1. It really is hard to beat our "human spirit". Had the hardest time today with some colleagues from work. Sigh. As long as we trying, yea? Let go and Let God.